TLC Purity show

There was a show on called Purity Ball which the basic synopsis was that fathers are more involved in their daughters (and of course sons) lives. The goal of the show was to enhance focus on girl’s purity and chaste before marriage. Because I consider counseling as one of my areas of study, I stuck with watching the show. It’s a 50/50 good/bad show to me.

I’m 100% enthralled that fathers desire to (and should be) helping their daughters focus on being abstinent until marriage. It’s a heart-felt show and a sign of hope that more girls now than in the past are striving for purity/chaste/abstinence (whichever you prefer to call it by).

The other half I didn’t realize until I read some comments while looking for a download or purchase of the documentary that it’s a loss of control in a girls life. Not to the extent of being slave-like, but that what most girls are naive or less knowledgeable/skilled in the “control” area of their life…at least they have control over it whether good or bad. With these girls, their father’s “control” the relationship area of their lives, but none the less they have no control over it or it’s at least a big argument or just a never talked suppressed struggle she keeps secret. After the girl marries, the husband is then in “control”.

I’m sure between both sides, girls fit in one or the other and sometimes both areas. I’m positive. I just hope on the negative side I mentioned that it’s not THAT terrible that fathers (and mothers) are deemed “control freaks”. Yes, I’m all for girls being pure until marriage but go about it in a way that you pray and talk to your kids about it and when they’re faced with or tempted later on down the line, they’ll look back and know what’s right from wrong (as this applies to any area we want to teach our kids about doing or not doing).

Thanks for reading, I’d love for you to leave some feedback!

Andrew